The ingestion of the red pill is difficult. It has been almost a year and I am still digesting it. Fortunately, I have come to terms with some of its harsh truths which I couldn’t reconcile myself with a while back, even though I considered myself “red pil”.
One of the biggest arguments between game denialists and the pro-game camp is about active game vs passive game. Active game being stuff like routines, openers, DHV, etc. Passive game being stuff like working out, making money, becoming more travelled and learned, being aesthetic, being tall etc.
The game denialists will swear that only passive game matters. They believe that you would have gotten the girl either way because of your innate natural advantages. The pro-gamers want to believe that only active game matters and that passive game is unnecessary.
Paradoxically, both are right. You can get notches with either style of game as long as you are not a complete fuckwit. I’ve been on both ends of the spectrum so this is coming from experience.
Yet, both are wrong as well. Game denialists want to believe game does not work. This is false. Game doesn’t ALWAYS work. This is a crucial distinction to make. Some girls just aren’t into you and no amount of spitting game is going to change that. That’s a fact. However, some girls are on the fence and your game is ultimately what helps them reach a decision. Creepy guy who hit on me, boring friendzone guy, stud I want to fuck my brains out, or classy guy I want to be in a relationship with. Your active game will ultimately decide in which category you end up when a girl is on the fence.
But for the girl to even be on the fence in the first place, your passive game is what is going to matter. The way a girl would react to you when you’ve been hitting the weights, are well groomed and well dressed, have your own place and your own car as compared to your skinny fat self with poor grooming and terrible clothing, living with your parents and using public transit is night and day. Sure, some girls will be open to both, but the majority of the attractive(and constantly dwindling with the whales gaining ground) female population will react more favorably to the first version of you
Therefore, this is not an either/or thing. For maximum results, you need the best of both worlds. Solid, tight active game which can be acquired by perusing the Chateau archives, reading up material and approaching. Solid, tight passive game which can be acquired by working out, dressing better, grooming yourself, making money and becoming more worldly.
Some will say that they don’t want a shallow girl and want a girl who can like them for who they are. Sure that is your right. What you don’t realize is that by becoming the best you can be, the pool of girls who will like you for what you are will increase exponentially.
If you are still blaming girls for being superficial, you are still mired in the blue pill reality. The truth is that everyone is out to get the best for THEM. That is why you are attracted to buxom girls with hourglass figures and pretty faces. It is not superficial to obey your natural imperative. Therefore it is not superficial for women to seek hot, fit guys with money. It is a natural imperative.
The redpill is scary at first because it shatters all your preciously held illusions about reality. But when you embrace it fully and adapt your life to its reality, you will realize that every aspect of your life will improve tenfold.
Learn active game, work on your passive game for maximum happiness and success