A fellow reader at The Spearhead made an astute observation
Back when I was still dating, one of my acid tests on a first date was to casually ask the woman about her father. I generally got one of two reactions. If the woman smiled warmly, began speaking of him in positive terms, and generally looked and acted as though she was having happy memories of him, then I knew she was a keeper.
On the other hand there were the women who at the mere mention of the word “father” got a cold, distant, or even shocked look on their faces as if to say, “Why are you asking me about HIM?” They would refuse to talk about their father, and in some cases claimed that they didn’t even know where he was and did not care. I knew those women were damaged goods. They simply were not capable of having healthy relations with men, and no matter how well I treated them, they would always view me with suspicion and disdain.
This is one of those lightbulb moments. I am not shitting you. As I reflect back to the girls I’ve known, there is a definite trend. The ones who didn’t have fathers present or who had weird relationships with their dads have all been no good. On the other hand, the girls who’ve been in a stable home with a proper father figure were just a joy to be around.
The girl I still remember most to this day, a cute, bubbly latina psych student. Her name was Stephanie, and she showed me Ceviche. My game was way off back then and she gave me so many chances which I fucked up. She was a sweetie, and definitely one of those girls one considers wifing if one has plans to get married. She was profoundly feminine, had that twinkle of innocence in her eyes and was a genuinely warm person. Last I heard, she was raising money for some water initiative back in her home country of Peru. Her family was very closely knit, I ate dinner with them once. Her dad was a boss. I lost her by using gimmicky PUA shit, when she was clearly interested. If there is a girl I regret screwing up with, it’s her.
The other good girl was a casual fuckbuddy, though she developed feelings. Stable family, she was always stress-free and you could really unwind around her. Came over wearing nothing but a jacket once, and with a bottle of rosé. Truly feminine and a pleasure to be around with
Another one, which didn’t work out was a girl I met in a bar with her friend. She’d typically come out with 10$ and sip on her drinks, or sometimes come out with nothing and get suckers to buy her a drink. She friendzoned me, but she was smart, never got too wasted and obtained good grades. I met her dad twice. Chided me for not liking his daughter’s food and we fooled around. Really cool guy, plays guitar and seems like a big part of his daughter’s life.
Italian Chick met in a Chapters, Christina. Strong family, alpha dad, they all made wine and grew tomatos together in the summer. She is sweet and a bit quirky, which is endearing. I remember one time she was sick and told me not to kiss her cause I might catch it, and I did. Her reaction was just too cute for words.
This is the end of the good girls. Note that none of the girls mentionned above got black out drunk or used drugs regularly. I think that is significant.
My ex. Ukrainian girl living in Canada. Father re-married another woman and seems to not care about her. She had been riding the cock carousel, dropped out of university and has been basically doing nothing with her life. She is 27 or 28, with no future plans, and is always talking about BS spiritualism, planet energy, and similar sounding BS. Is a vegetarian. Drinks like a sailor, does hard drugs and smokes weed all the time and is abusive and pigheaded. Major jealousy issues and clingy as fuck.
Chick from class I dated for a bit. Attracted to drug dealers, had two drug dealer boyfriends. Not sure if father is alive or not, never seen him once at home. Major attention whore.
Stripper I picked up at the bus stop. Predictably, father issues. Mom remarried, and her new father in law is always nagging her and on her back about doing something about her life. I suspect he tried to bang her, though she never mentionned it. Would explain why she hates going home for holidays. Had over 20k of credit debt because of clothes and shoes, had to live off soup kitchens just to make it. Strips and bartends. Best sex ever. Has a boyfriend, I suspect he’s a drug dealer. Known to consume hard drugs like heroin, cocaine and other stuff.
I could continue on and on but you get the point. Although it is anecdotal in this post, there is evidence that children from stable homogeneous families(mother-father) are better adjusted than others from studies.
While in the US Census same-sex households have to be guessed at based on the gender and number of self-reported heads-of-household, young adults in the Canadian census were asked, “Are you the child of a male or female same-sex married or common law couple?” While study author and economist Douglas Allen noted that very many children in Canada who live with a gay or lesbian parent are actually living with a single mother—a finding consonant with that detected in the 2012 New Family Structures Study—he was able to isolate and analyze hundreds of children living with a gay or lesbian couple (either married or in a “common law” relationship akin to cohabitation).
So the study is able to compare—side by side—the young-adult children of same-sex couples and opposite-sex couples, as well as children growing up in single-parent homes and other types of households. Three key findings stood out to Allen:
children of married opposite-sex families have a high graduation rate compared to the others; children of lesbian families have a very low graduation rate compared to the others; and the other four types [common law, gay, single mother, single father] are similar to each other and lie in between the married/lesbian extremes.
Employing regression models and series of control variables, Allen concludes that the substandard performance cannot be attributed to lower school attendance or the more modest education of gay or lesbian parents. Indeed, same-sex parents were characterized by higher levels of education, and their children were more likely to be enrolled in school than even those of married, opposite-sex couples. And yet their children are notably more likely to lag in finishing their own schooling.
The same is true of the young-adult children of common law parents, as well as single mothers and single fathers, highlighting how little—when you lean on large, high-quality samples—the data have actually changed over the past few decades. The intact, married mother-and-father household remains the gold standard for children’s progress through school. What is surprising in the Canadian data is the revelation that lesbian couples’ children fared worse, on average, than even those of single parents.
Source : http://www.thepublicdiscourse.com/2013/10/10996/
It is no surprise that the good girls were all doing great in school. My peruvian lady was already working for a hospital after graduating with a 4.1 GPA.
In order to avoid all the drama, screen for paternal involvement. Avoid any dalliances with young fillies who exhibit aversion or disrespect towards their fathers. Better to have tranquillity of mind and spirit, and bulging balls, than to empty your manfluids in one of these cum guzzling whores who have never known the affection and presence of a father. The drama that will ensue will not be worth the brief tryst(unless of course you pump and dump). You have been warned