I was just watching a documentary about some guy travelling the world and fishing out scams. They got on the subject of PUAs. The usual creepy, seedy talk from a guy who probably does not have more than 5 notches despite being over 30.
Anyways, they baited one of the many PUAs who isit this one particular spot into opening a hot girl who worked for them.
Looking at the interaction from a redpill point of view, I saw plenty of mistakes, mistakes a lot of us guys make.
1. Weak, inefficient, not-so-subtle pre approach: This guy was pretending to be on the phone, walked up to the girl, pretended to talk on the phone, hung up, talked to her. Follow the goddamn 3 second rule, drop the theatrics, this is not some grand performance.
2. Weak opener: Some openers are just bad, especially if the frame is off. Open direct, indirect, situationally relevant, or outrageous(my favorite). The opener can set the frame of the interaction directly. A conversation started with “do you think I have a big dick” and one started with “Hey, is this the fountain of Youth” when it’s written in front of you will have considerably different outcomes.
3. Apologizing directly or indirectly for their sexual desire: This guy in the documentary invited the girl for drinks. She was hesitating a bit so he said he’d be with his friends. Facepalm. Nothing dries up the pussy quicker than acting like you’re not a man, or that you’re not like other men. Assume your desire, use it to arouse her.
4. It’s not an interview: Asking questions without expanding or going into stories will not get you laid. This one guy asked her where she’s from, she said Australia, he replied cool. Anything funny, witty or even ridiculous would be better than that. For example, “I heard Australian girls are crazy…… especially in bed. That sounds hot”, and expand on whatever she replies.
5. If you’re afraid to say it, you should probably say it and see how it goes. Playing it safe has put you in the position you’re in right now, take some fucking risks. It can’t be worse than your current situation
6. Not pushing enough for the close: Every aspiring PUA has come across this. Not pushing for the close because of X reasons. Don’t want to appear too forward, don’t want to look like a creep, I want to take it slow, etc. If a girl is not down to sleep with you, she’ll let you know. If she wants to, you will. If she wants to but doesn’t want to appear easy, she’ll let you know. Ultimately, she will respect you more regardless of the outcome if you push for the close. Even if she’s on the fence, going for the close might be the touch of boldness required to win her over. Even if she has already disqualified you, going for the close might be the touch of boldness that will cause her to reevaluate her opinions on you. Always try to go as far as you can.
7. Asking if she has a boyfriend: Why do people do this? This does not concern you in any way whatsoever. Your goal is between her legs. If she has a boyfriend, she will bring him up. If she doesn’t bring him up, it’s not your problem.
Corollary, guys give up too easily when they hear of a rumored boyfriend. Sometimes it’s a shit test to see whether you’re one of those guys easily setback, sometimes it’s genuine. Disarm the trap, plow on and find out if the boyfriend is fictional, real, irrelevantt or just a polite way of telling you to fuck off.
9. Emotional connections: I think this is the biggest reason guys fail at picking up. They fail to make a girl feel anything whatsoever. I had a huge fight with my current girlfriend a while back, which ended in a heavy backhand. She hated me for days, but eventually came back. Now this girl is talking about taking a plane ticket to come see me in Africa where I’m currently chilling. This is what you can get when you elicit emotions.
This is why cold reading techniques work so well. If you utilize them properly, you can make a girl go through an emotional rollercoaster which will end with her asking who is this guy? The cube is great for this. Examples: “I might be completely crazy but I feel a deep, dark void inside you, some unresolved issue you’re dealing with that’s hindering your potential and hurting your ability to achieve self-actualization”. No need to wax so poetic but you get the gist of it. Everyone has some worries or unresolved issues, so she’ll think bout something and talk to you about it. Then you bring it up again with shit like” Hmm…. I see…. Yet, I feel a radiant inner strength that tells me you can overcome anything life throws at you and rise stronger. Yes, just like the legendary phoenix. Haha, look at me talking, I almost sound smart” Does it sound corny? Yes. Will it get you laid? Yes. If you feel ashamed of saying shit like that, your inner game is off, and you can enjoy not getting laid.
10. Finally, tension is an aphrodisiac. You know those moments when both of you are looking into each other’s eyes and you feel like you have to do or say something, and you or her look away, or someone giggles and one of you latches at that to ask what’s funny? Yeah that’s tension. That mildly uncomfortable feeling is your ally. Too much of it brings the interaction to creepy levels, too little of it and the interaction stays in that platonic friend zone area. Keep the tension at a good level. Staring directly into her eyes, silence and slow movements are great tension builders and the sharper ones will notice they usually precede a kiss. They also precede vaginal moisturizing and torrential flooding.
You notice there’s no tension whenever you’re with really good friends? Yeah, that’s what happens with the girl too if there’s no tension, you’ll become really good friends!
PS: Talk to girls like you are talking to your little niece or baby sister and your results will improve dramatically