Common mistakes we make when gaming girls.

I was just watching a documentary about some guy travelling the world and fishing out scams. They got on the subject of PUAs. The usual creepy, seedy talk from a guy who probably does not have more than 5 notches despite being over 30.

Anyways, they baited one of the many PUAs who isit this one particular spot into opening a hot girl who  worked for them.

Looking at the interaction from a redpill point of view, I saw plenty of mistakes, mistakes a lot of us guys make.

1. Weak, inefficient, not-so-subtle pre approach: This guy was pretending to be on the phone, walked up to the girl, pretended to talk on the phone, hung up,  talked to her. Follow the goddamn 3 second rule, drop the theatrics, this is not some grand performance.

2. Weak opener: Some openers are just bad, especially if the frame is off. Open direct, indirect, situationally relevant, or outrageous(my favorite). The opener can set the frame of the interaction directly. A conversation started with “do you think I have a big dick” and one started with “Hey, is this the fountain of Youth” when it’s written in front of you will have considerably different outcomes.

3. Apologizing directly or indirectly for their sexual desire: This guy in the documentary invited the girl for drinks. She was hesitating a bit so he said he’d be with his friends. Facepalm. Nothing dries up the pussy quicker than acting like you’re not a man, or that you’re not like other men. Assume your desire, use it to arouse her. 

4. It’s not an interview: Asking questions without expanding or going into stories will not get you laid. This one guy asked her where she’s from, she said Australia, he replied cool. Anything funny, witty or even ridiculous would be better than that. For example, “I heard Australian girls are crazy…… especially in bed. That sounds hot”, and expand on whatever she replies.

5. If you’re afraid to say it, you should probably say it and see how it goes. Playing it safe has put you in the position you’re in right now, take some fucking risks. It can’t be worse than your current situation 

6. Not pushing enough for the close: Every aspiring PUA has come across this. Not pushing for the close because of X reasons. Don’t want to appear too forward, don’t want to look like a creep, I want to take it slow, etc. If a girl is not down to sleep with you, she’ll let you know. If she wants to, you will. If she wants to but doesn’t want to appear easy, she’ll let you know. Ultimately, she will respect you more regardless of the outcome if you push for the close. Even if she’s on the fence, going for the close might be the touch of boldness required to win her over. Even if she has already disqualified you, going for the close might be the touch of boldness that will cause her to reevaluate her opinions on you. Always try to go as far as you can.

7. Asking if she has a boyfriend: Why do people do this? This does not concern you in any way whatsoever. Your goal is between her legs. If she has a boyfriend, she will bring him up. If she doesn’t bring him up, it’s not your problem. 

Corollary, guys give up too easily when they hear of a rumored boyfriend. Sometimes it’s a shit test to see whether you’re one of those guys easily setback, sometimes it’s genuine. Disarm the trap, plow on and find out if the boyfriend is fictional, real, irrelevantt or just a polite way of telling you to fuck off.

9. Emotional connections: I think this is the biggest reason guys fail at picking up.  They fail to make a girl feel anything whatsoever. I had a huge fight with my current girlfriend a while back, which ended in a heavy backhand. She hated me for days, but eventually came back. Now this girl is talking about taking a plane ticket to come see me in Africa where I’m currently chilling. This is what you can get when you elicit emotions.

This is why cold reading techniques work so well. If you utilize them properly, you can make a girl go through an emotional rollercoaster which will end with her asking who is this guy? The cube is great for this. Examples: “I might be completely crazy but I feel a deep, dark void inside you, some unresolved issue you’re dealing with that’s hindering your potential and hurting your ability to achieve self-actualization”. No need to wax so poetic but you get the gist of it. Everyone has some worries or unresolved issues, so she’ll think bout something and talk to you about it. Then you bring it up again with shit like” Hmm…. I see…. Yet, I feel a radiant inner strength that tells me you can overcome anything life throws at you and rise stronger. Yes, just like the legendary phoenix. Haha, look at me talking, I almost sound smart” Does it sound corny? Yes. Will it get you laid? Yes. If you feel ashamed of saying shit like that, your inner game is off, and you can enjoy not getting laid.

10. Finally, tension is an aphrodisiac. You know those moments when both of you are looking into each other’s eyes and you feel like you have to do or say something, and you or her look away, or someone giggles and one of you latches at that to ask what’s funny? Yeah that’s tension. That mildly uncomfortable feeling is your ally. Too much of it brings the interaction to creepy levels, too little of it and the interaction stays in that platonic friend zone area. Keep the tension at a good level. Staring directly into her eyes, silence and slow movements are great tension builders and the sharper ones will notice they usually precede a kiss. They also precede vaginal moisturizing and torrential flooding.

You notice there’s no tension whenever you’re with really good friends? Yeah, that’s what happens with the girl too if there’s no tension, you’ll become really good friends!

PS: Talk to girls like you are talking to your little niece or baby sister and your results will improve dramatically

Traveling, cultural differences

Traveling is fun. I am currently in West Africa and enjoying the sights here, as well as the cheap alcohol. I almost killed myself with some 80% alcohol but besides that I’m having a swell time. Cheap food, cheap alcohol, cheap ciigarettes, a man could live like a KING here with 1000$ a month.

I am only saddened by one thing. The use of game here is very limited. I would say the distribution of what you need to pick up decent looking chicks in the first world is roughly 60% game, 20-20% looks and money. Here, I’d say it’s 80% money, 15%  game, 5% looks. There is a distinction between those who have lived abroad and the locals, regardless of whether they are from the same country. And it is understandable. Wages here are abysmally low. People get paid as low as 30$ a month. High level managerial positions get you roughly 1000$ a month. Corruption is rampant and people would do anything to scam you. It is hard for those who’ve gone abroad to associate with the locals who haven’t as their reality is way too different.

Pick up here is much the same. The good looking girls want nothing to do with broke niggas. Their logic is if I’m gonna fuck him, I might as well  get all I can for it. It doesn’t necessarily mean paying for pussy, but stuff like buying her gifts, lunch, diner, paying for her taxi, giving her some spending money etc. The notches are easy to get if you really want them, but my interest in pickup is the thrill of the chase. Knowing that I could roll up to a club in my Mom’s car and leave 5 minutes later with a girl without laying down any game takes the whole thrill out of picking up. I’d rather masturbate than fuck a girl who sees me as an ATM. I’d rather hire a prostitute actually, at least she doesn’t hide what she is. It’s similar to certain parts of Asia actually.

The,only hope is other people who have travelled, lived or studied abroad as they are not struggling like the locals. Gaming them still operates by the normal rules of pickup and the sexual market.

I feel a twinge of guilt whenever I remember my nights out in Montreal, blowing 400$ in a night. Thinking that that is the salary of 4 grown ass family men here is a disturbingly sobering thought.

Yet, I was not gonna send them those 400$ so that guilt is misplaced, and all my lofty thoughts are just that, mere sentilentak musings. I know I will still be spending 400$, wenching, drinking, smoking and getting high. You play the hand you’re dealt, that’s the strict reality of life. The gods should be feeling guilty.

Also, Canada is extremely overpriced. I bought a 1.14l bottle of Absolut here, cost me 10 bucks. It is around 38 bucks in montreal. A pack of cigs ranges from 80 cents to 2 dollars here, it ranges from 7 to 12 dollars in Montreal. Somehow, somewhere, someone is getting fucked in the ass while someone is laughing all the way to the bank with the insane profits they’re making

Lessons from female singers

Contrary to the sappy, blue pill shit you hear from boy bands and male singers about love, treating a girl right and all that jazz, female singers tell it true in their songs.

Most female songs about guys are either disparaging towards beta males, or refer to their incomprehensible pining for alpha males. It is something I’ve noticed since taking the red pill. The message is very palpable. Game concepts are validated by women themselves and affect them so much they write songs about it.

There is an almost infinite amount of songs on this subject. Even the ones where the singer is bitter and sings about getting jilted, you can recognize alpha male behaviour as the cause of their great distress and hurt. I have chosen a few samples, hoping it would help shatter the illusion of game denialists.  It is one thing to refuse to believe one man writing on the internet, it’s another to refuse to believe a bunch of women saying the same shit.

The first song on the list is Crave You, by Flight Facilities ft Giselle

Why can’t you want me like the other boys do?
They stare at me while I stare at you
Why can’t I keep you safe as my own?
One moment I have you the next you are gone

Displaying abundance of pussy and outcome independence, also instilling a sense of dread. Alpha.

I walked into the room dripping in gold
Dripping in gold
A wave of heads did turn, or so I’ve been told
Or so I’ve been told

My heart broke when I saw you kept your gaze controlled

Again, aloofness and controlled indifference. Catnip to the hamster

Around his little finger, that boy has got me curled

I try to reach out, but he’s in his own world.

This boy’s got my head tied in knots with all his games.

I simply want him more because he looks the other way

Frame control. You are in your world, you play by your rules, not by hers. She can be part of your world, or she can leave. Those are the only 2 options. If you’re the one in her world, your frame is weak.

Game precepts which make a girl crave you. Straight from the mouth of the horse. Moving on, another Flight Faciities song with a different singer, Jess

never ending stories lead me to the door (so I )

then I wait alone just like I did before

another mystery is laying down the rhymes

seems you are distracted and you never have the time,

So I can’t let you go and you won’t let me know

Aloofness, mystery and the proper use of the word NO will make your woman respect you, pine for your attention and love you even more.

Next up is Adele

And the things I think just don’t make sense
So where you been then? Don’t go all coy
Don’t turn it ’round on me like it’s my fault
See I can see that look in your eyes
The one that shoots me each and every time (every time)

You grace me with your cold shoulder
Whenever you look at me I wish I was her
You shower me with words made of knives
Whenever you look at me I wish I was her

Time and time again, I play the role of fool
(Just for you)

Reframing, and dread at work here. She has suspicions, yet still clings to this man whose verbal shivs must be a sight to behold. The fact that he might be having an affair, far from reducing his value, raises it tenfold in her eyes.

Another Adele song : 

Right under my feet is air made of bricks
It pulls me down turns me weak for you
I find myself repeating like a broken tune
And I’m forever excusing your intentions
And I give in to my pretendings
Which forgive you each time
Without me knowing
They melt my heart to stone

And I hear your words that I made up
You say my name like there could be an us
I best tidy up my head I’m the only one in love
I’m the only one in love

Controlled aloofness and push pull push. She knows she is being played, but that glimmer of attention is enough to keep her hopeful that despite all odds, just maybe. Alpha behaviour can let you get away with almost anything with women.

A final example, the Writer by Ellie Goulding – 

The chorus represents the ultimate level of submission, and therefore the ultimate level of dominance, coercion not included.

Tell me what you see in the last song.

It is somehow funny that all these  lessons are out there in the media we consume everyday, yet it takes a redpill mentality to connect the dots. I mean, there are so many songs where the artist releases her id and speaks how she truly feels. Yet, we do not pick up on those and remain ignorant to what is literally right in front of our eyes, to what hammers our ears day in and day out. If you wanna understand women, observe their behavior.

That is the essence of game