Last year, around August, I made the decision to get better at landing girls. I had gotten laid before but it was inconsistent and mostly luck based. I had a buddy who used to bang girls like a champ and I should have spent my time studying him, but he got into a relationship 2 years ago so that was out. Another buddy of mine also wanted to get better so we started going out a lot and trying to figure shit out on our own. Things were going okay, we were learning.
I met a pretty Peruvian girl one night at a club, she was there with her brother for his birthday. We traded numbers. We went on a couple of dinner dates(cringe) and I managed to get her back to my place after a few of those. But I didn’t bang. She didn’t friendzone me per se, but she told me I blew it by moving too slow. I was heartbroken. I truly loved her(or I thought I did). She was an angel, affectionate, smart, cooked, had no attitude, was extremely feminine and very pretty. At this time, I had stumbled over the Tao of Badass by chance through a facebook friend. This was my first contact with the concept of game. I applied some of the concepts on a girl in my class, got a date, had dinner a few times(cringe#2) and lost her without the bang. I was getting frustrated now. I was doing everything society had told me girls liked, and it obviously was scaring them off. I decided to say fuck mainstream advice right then and there.
Somewhere, somehow, I heard about “The Game”. I studied the book religiously. I went to Chapters or Indigo every day to read it. I read it three times. I started approaching the girls in the bookstore. At that moment, I discovered girlschase. Both sources confirmed my observations that most advice you obtain from society for getting girls has the opposite effect.
The Game taught me the Mystery Method, Chase taught me inner game and expanded on female psychology.
The first time I used the Mystery Method in a club, I kissed two girls. Not bad for someone who was used to getting a kiss every 36th of the month!
Though I have evolved a bit my game is still very mystery method like. I had given up most routines but today I still use a few.
When I decided to completely give up canned routines, my results dropped drastically. I still hadn’t fully grasped what I was doing. It was too early to take the training wheels off.
I started slowly reintroducing a routine which I liked the cube. I had a slight variation of the cube where I held the girls hand during it and played with it. Slowly and surely, I noticed a trend. The girls I ran the cube on, I would get the kiss at least 80% of the time. Most of the ones I didn’t get the kiss, I did not hold their hands. There was no arguing with facts.
This is the primary mistake I and most guys make. They do not touch the girl enough. I don’t know if they are afraid she’ll break, or if they’re scared of touching her and being labeled a creep. If it’s the latter, you need to work on your inner game more.
Physical contact is extremely important. It not only gauges comfort levels, it primes both of you for intimacy. You don’t let anyone touch you just like that. The fact that most men are afraid of touching a girl makes you look even more attractive when you do it. This is the real reason why gimmicks like palm reading work so well to get you laid. Combine extended physical touch with cold reading and suddenly, the girl opens up and you know her better than 90% of her friends. She will rationalize that for her to open up like that to a complete stranger means she must be really attracted to you. She also gets used to you touching her, making your connection feel way more intimate than some random asshole she met at the bar(which is what you are, but I digress). This shit is like attraction dynamite.
This is also why Latin men have a reputation for being suave players. They touch touch touch and touch some more. Here in the West, the standard greeting is a formal handshake. There, it’s two or three kisses on the cheek, followed by a hug. Who would you feel more comfortable with, a girl who shakes your hand like she’s sealing a business deal or a girl who kisses you on the cheeks and hugs you? Who will you remember more vividly and have more tender feelings toward? Rhetorical. Mainly due to that, the average western man’s game is way below the level of the average Latin man. He is not used to physical contact and is scared of being labeled. How does he expect to get laid?
Now, notwithstanding any big blunder on my part, if an interaction that started well fizzles out, I generally see that it was due to lack of sufficient physical contact. Like I said, I have mainly stopped using routines, but I still use the cube when there is no contextual reason to touch her at first. I look back at the girls I lost and the girls I banged and the trend is there.
My fuckbuddy from the end of last month? Met her outside the bar, played with her body, feeling her shapes and reassuring that she’s thin enough, but should start hitting the gym to not lose it. Bang
The cheeky girl from last week friday telling me how skinny I looked when I was outside the bar smoking? I showed her my abs, told her to show me hers, started poking and playing with her slight belly fat and touching her all over. Bang
The french girl I see every Monday night I saw again this Monday? I just talked to her, ran asshole game, and tried to get back to her place. No bang.
The australian girl I met at an after party this Tuesday and talked to from 4 till 6 AM? No bang
The young underage girl from the night bus last weekend? Number close, cube, bang.
The pretty 25yo Christian girl last night who was punching me playfully and with whom I had a great conversation for nearly an hour? Dodged the kiss and disappeared. No bang
The hot lesbian from last night? Played with her beanie hat, played with her hair, played with her hand and examined her ring, our legs touching the whole time starting to rouse my boner? Tried to dodge the kiss half-heartedly, but let herself go and melted in my hands. Bang
If you feel you are having good interactions with girls but little results, try kinoing more. Situational touching is best, but a good palm reading or cube routine or any routine which can create an excuse for you to touch her is just as good. Just don’t sound too rehearsed. Girls love feeling unique. If you sound like a robot, she will know you have done this a million times. I can guarantee you that your previously good interactions will start generating way more results.
Some of you may be curious about the Cube. It is described in the Game, but I will give you a short synopsis and a link to a more complete guide. It is quite a fun routine if you ask me. You get to know a lot about people, get many occasions to neg her and bond. I fully believe I got my first 9 thanks to the cube. I had to blow it by reverting to a beta after kissing her and buying her drinks. Dumbass.
Anyways, for maximum results, you want her to put her hand in yours. You can hold her hand, but there is a subtle psychological power shift when she is the one putting her hand in yours rather than you grabbing her hand. Depending on your vibe, the latter can either come across as needy or alpha. Regardless of your vibe, the former exhibits aloofness and confidence.
Step 1: Tell her to give you her hand
Step 2: Tell her to close her eyes. Some girls will give you shit about this, afraid you will plant a kiss like a pussy. Make it clear it’s a visualization exercise early on. You can ease into this by casually dropping “Hey, you look like you’d be good at visualizing things in your mind. I read in a psychology journal that there is an exercise that will let you know your true inner self. Let’s try it”, or some similarly new age sounding bullshit. I honestly don’t know why they buy into this stuff but they do.
Step 3: Tell her to visualize the sky, desert and horizon.
Step 4: Add a cube. What is it like, size, color, material, floating or on the ground.
Step 5: Add a ladder. What is its position in relationship to cube, how big is it, how many rungs.
Step 6: Add a horse. You know the drill
Step 7: Add flowers. Same as above
Step 8: Visualize a storm. What kind of storm, how far or close, is it behind or is it ahead?
Step 9: Explain what it all means, prompting her to tell you whether you are right on the money or not. If you are not, don’t worry, ask her what she’s actually like then, she’ll be too happy to qualify herself, especially if it’s something negative. It is equally beneficial to have her disagree. You can land in some easy negs with this routine and get girls qualifying themselves to you effortlessly. I like using this on icequeens. A lot. Usually, vague ambiguous statements are the best. Stuff like “You value independence, but you also appreciate relying on others, and sometimes you wish you could rely on others more”, “You have an adventurous personality, but you sometimes waver when faced with risky choices”. It actually makes me laugh that this used to be used in criminal profiling. Using vague, ambiguous statements that could identify almost anyone, and claiming they were right when the culprit was found, even if some of those statements were outrageously false.
This simple routine covers many bases.
Building comfort, trust and spiking attraction: Kinda hard not to trust someone who could have done any amount of horrible things to you while you had your eyes closed. In addition, he now knows the deepest parts of you, the real you, even more than your closest friend, and you’ve only known him 30 minutes. Who the hell is this guy????
Showing value: She will remember you forever. Very few people get to know her on such an intimate level in such a short time
Kino: Uninterrupted touch through the whole thing. She gets used to your touch and gets turned on
Being dominant: You are telling her what to do, like a real man.
Building compliance and getting her investing: She is doing what she is told like the feminine submissive woman she should be.
Screening girls: If she doesn’t want to do it, you are wasting your time with this girl. Move on.
Generally, some talking after this and she’s ready to be kissed.
It can sometimes backfire though, some girls may feel too exposed and too vulnerable. There was this HB9 I was talking to once, the friend of a hot friend, at the end of the routine I knew all of the major events of her life, including the fact that she had been a fatty 2 years ago and had worked relentlessly to obtain the insanely tight body she now had and how she still felt insecure about her body and continuously worked on it. I decided to take it slow since I wanted her as a girlfriend(bad mistake). We met up the next day at a bar, and she told me she felt too vulnerable, too exposed, that she didn’t know anything about me and I knew all about her and that she felt sooo vulnerable when she was near me. I somehow got the bang but didn’t get the relationship I wanted because she said being in my presence reminded her of all her flaws and insecurities and made her feel inadequate. Bummer.
If there are two things I would recommend you to try if you are getting warm receptions but your approaches end up fizzling miserably, it is these. More kino, and/or the “Touch” Cube. Learn more about the meanings of the cube here
PS: I did end up banging my classmate a while later after the exams, after I had improved my game dramatically. She had no chance. I orchestrated it masterfully, using a stripper friend as a pivot. I never answered her texts after that. That’s what happened to the nice guy you helped destroy. Revenge is it’s own reward. People who say it’s petty don’t know what the fuck they’re talking about.