Mainstream popular dating advice is hilariously bad. Jesus christ, there is nothing worse than the bullshit our fem-centrist society feeds you about dating and relationships. There is literally nothing that comes close to being as bad as that. Mainstream dating advice is written by feminists and women. It has pervaded our culture so much that people actually believe it, follow it and will claim it as the only truth. The sad thing is that a bit of research can debunk that very quickly.
Dating in itself is a very modern construct. A 20th century concept that has origins in Courtly Love, the precursor of feminism. Anyways, you can read all about it here if you wanna trace the origings of feminism:
http://rationalmale.wordpress.com/2013/03/27/hail-to-the-v/
I am just going to address the 3 date myth. We’ve all heard it before. “No sex before the 3rd date”. Lol. Can’t believe this is in the mystery method.
I don’t know when and where this started or how it became such a popular piece of advice, but anyone who’s been dating a bit will know this is bullshit.
It seems like it’s another creation designed to consume a man’s resources to the benefit of the woman(it makes a lot of sense unsurprisingly when you consider another popular piece of advice, “men must pay”). This usually ends in a guy being friendzoned, or being slotted firmly in the potential provider/boyfriend role, but not the lover role.
What are some of the characteristics of an alpha male? Aggressiveness, dominance, narcissism, machiavellism, driven to achieve the best possible outcome for HIM and leading others to help achieve that while being confident that his outcome will be achieved, not needy and doesn’t pedestalize any pussy, completely outcome dependent since he knows success will come sooner or later due to past experiences. Not a complete list since the essence of alpha cannot be distilled that easily but this will do for now.
Now, what is the message you send when you follow the rule? You are not alpha enough to really go for what you want, you are needy, you have few options if any at all(men with options don’t have time to go for 3 dates with one chick when they can pick up girls any day) and you have not yet realized that the girl who will sleep with you on the 3rd date will do it on the first, but the opposite is not true. Why? Because attraction has an expiry date. There is something inherently exciting about moving fast. It shows assertiveness, confidence, leadership, dominance and experience, all characteristics that make the gina tingle.
There are four possible things that can happen in the girl’s head during the first date based on her expectations.
1. She expects nothing and gets nothing: This is what she expected, her attraction stays the same or falls a bit because she was right in classifying you as a beta who would be too scared to make a move. She probably expected some boyfriend prospect
2. She expects something and gets nothing: She will hate you for wasting her time, and for somehow tricking her that you were a closer. You will have a hard time getting anything out of her anymore, forget a 2nd date. This girl will peg you in the loser category with the quickness.
3. She expects nothing and gets something: She will be pleasantly surprised that you are more manly, bolder and assertive than she thought. Attraction will spike but she will try to put the breaks because she realizes you’re higher value than she thought and wants to lock you down(woman logic, lol). Don’t put up with it, make it clear yet subtly that this is a now or never deal and that she won’t have any other chance. This can be a simple offhand remark that you will be very busy on some project starting from the next week earlier in the date, that you plan on going to the country for a bit next week or anything like that. Basically, subtle hints that it’s my way or the highway. She has only one option to get you, and when she realizes this, what else can she do but spread?
4. She expects something and gets something: Perfect. Her attraction will go up because you were congruent with what she was expecting and she realizes that you’re not some fake, lame guy being cocky/funny and acting like a jerk yet can’t close when it really matters.
Even if you don’t get sex the same night(generally cause you failed to handle logistics) simply making a move and trying to get her back to your place will let her know that next time you guys meet, it’s on. If she’s not down for whatever move you make(always persist without being needy), cut her off. If she contacts you again, tell her that you’re really busy but she can come over to your place and cook diner with you. This is the great separator for girls playing games looking for a beta provider and girls who genuinely like you and are open to the idea of stuffing your cock in their mouths and vaginas. Generally, if a girl goes out on a date with you, she likes you and is open to intimacy with you, so unless you fuck up royally on the date, this situation will rarely occur
You want to at least go for a kiss on the first date and ask her to come to your place. If you have a good date template, decent date game and handled logistics, you should see an exponential increase in your date > sex conversion rate. I struggled with this at first, not having a car and all with public transit being kinda clunky and not smooth at all. Now, I have this system where we start at a small café next to my place, then have a beer at a nice local bar next to my place and finally if I feel hungry, there’s a nice, cheap takeout sushi next to my place as well as the pizza store I work at, and we head back to my place to eat/chill/whatever. Everything is geared towards us being as close to my place and ultimately ending up there, where the likelihood of having sex is exponentially higher.
So next time, forget the 2nd or 3rd date. Your first date is the do or die moment. Even if you are looking for a girlfriend or LTR, it’s the same thing. Who do you think has a better chance of making a chick his girlfriend? The guy who’s been ravaging her pussy since their first date or the guy who takes her on 3 dates only to get rejected because he’s moving too fast while she is sucking one-date guy’s cock?
Think hard about this one
